How I met my hubby <3
I'll try and keep it short, but our story is just too good!!
First of all, if you haven’t read Kayla’s blog post titled “unseen vs hidden” go read that! A lot of the things that she talks about in that post is exactly where I was before me and my now hubby started dating and I just wanted to share a little bit of how that story ended for me!
Growing up, I was just like Kayla. I was never the boy crazy type. I had my group of friends and that was enough. I had this deep desire to date one guy my whole life, so I was super intentional about it from the start.
That is probably why I never really dated. I was what you could call picky. Picky to the point that I had graduated high school and had never had a boyfriend, kissed anyone, or even held hands with a guy… Crazy I know, but honestly I never really felt embarrassed or ashamed of it.
I had this quiet confidence that the Lord was doing something bigger and I just had to wait for my love story to unfold.
When I was in the tenth grade I met this long-haired guy named Ryan. I met him through one of my friends on the volleyball team and ever since the first time I met him, I knew he liked me. Everyone knew it. What’s funny though is Ryan never told me himself.
He knew I wasn’t interested so I guess that’s probably why. Anytime anyone would ask me what I thought about him I would nicely say that he was a good friend and that it was never going to be anything more. At the time, he just didn’t seem like husband material to me. (Ha!)
Well, despite this major friend zoning that went on for literally 3 years, he stuck around. We always hung out in the same friend groups and gradually became very close.
After I graduated high school, the desire to be in a relationship became stronger than ever. I had other guys that I was interested of course, but none of them really went anywhere too special. I knew I wanted to be married but wondered when it would happen for me.
I prayed for my future husband a lot, yet questioned where he was. I was genuinely convinced that I hadn’t met him yet and that one day he would just show up and sweep me off my feet.
The verse that I clung to during this season of waiting was Psalms 37:4. It says “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Well, let me tell ya… I spent a lot of time delighting myself in the Lord!
I just wanted to hear from Him. I wanted to feel His involvement. I wanted to know He was there. I wanted to try and figure out what He was up to in my love life. I trusted Him and wanted so badly to be in His will.
Well one day after 3 years of openly friend zoning Ryan, I got word that he had actually gone on a date with another girl. I didn’t think much of it at first, but the more I thought of him potentially moving on to someone else, the more I didn’t like it.
Around this same time he had just gotten a big boy job, cut his hair (I liked short hair way better), and seemed to be getting his life to a more stable, mature place so I started to question if I was letting a good guy go without ever giving him a fair chance…
One night when I was expressing all of these feelings to my parents, my brother who was team Ryan from the very beginning had overheard it all and what did he do? He ran and told Ryan which opened up a very uncomfortable conversation. I had been so vocal that I would never date him and now here I was telling him that I might be “changing my mind.”
Anyways, Ryan is the guy I ended up marrying. And yes, he was the only guy I ever called boyfriend and the only guy I’ve ever loved besides my awesome dad of course. I like to call him my one and only.
The Lord work in mysterious ways.
I always wonder what the Lord must have been thinking all those years that I friend-zoned Ryan. In the most loving way, I picture Him smirking and saying something along the lines of “Oh you just wait miss know it all. In a little while, you’ll be head over heels for this guy.”
I had spent years thinking that I knew what was best for me when it came to my love life, but the Lord knew something I didn’t. While I had plans of one day meeting someone new to call mine, the Lord was just waiting for the right time to reveal what He had been planning all along.
He was using that time to grow both me and Ryan while also meshing my desires with what He had in store.
In Isaiah 55 verse 9 it says that the Lord’s ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. His plan was so much better! How terrible would it have been if I didn’t allow Jesus to be involved in my love life?!
I just want to remind you above anything else that Jesus knows your deepest desires. He loves you so much and wants what’s best for you. He knows where you want to end up in life and better yet He already has it all figured out with a perfectly thought out plan.
Be motivated! Involve Him in every decision and every plan you try and think up for yourself. Don’t we want to live this life to its greatest potential with Jesus as our biggest supporter? Don’t we want to know that we are living right where God wants us to be? Oh, what peace and freedom comes from this type of living!
Delight yourself in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart. It may not be what you originally thought it would be like but I can promise you this, it will be way better than you could have ever dreamed.
- Crystal Horton
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